The Normalcy of Paranormal Experience

The Psi-cret

“The universe tells us secrets only we are meant to know.” -“Queen Mother” Dr. Delois Blakely, first female community mayor of Harlem, New York.


“The Secret,” a spiritually-oriented mainstream documentary, has enjoyed wide commercial success for several years with its messages of positivity, like-attracting-like, and karma presenting itself in concrete ways to those who are “in the know.” However, the implication that these concepts are a part of a grand “secret” is merely an exercise in manipulation.

It is human nature to compete with one another, and if I know something you don’t — I may have a leg up in the survival chain. Energy is neither positive nor negative in itself; it is made positive by the emotions we connect to it. There is no “secret” to exercising positivity. Entitling the film this way implies that those who either do not know “the secret” or fail to exercise it are somehow to blame for their less positive experiences. This promotion of positive versus negative may sound appealing, but it also lacks the depth of full human experience.

What is a secret, essentially?

From a physiological standpoint, secrets are stressors. Secrets are often accompanied by lies, and they tend to bring out feelings of shame and guilt. Even secrets with a positive spin (e.g. Don’t tell her, but I’m proposing tonight!) often create similar circumstances of betrayal and guilt, and can cause elevated blood pressure, heart rate, anxiety, and tension.

The only difference between a “negative” secret and a “positive” secret seems to be intention. If one keeps a secret to spare someone’s feelings or to heighten a surprise, any accompanying lies or manipulations are rationalized as justifying the end result; in this case, keeping someone from getting hurt or greatening someone’s experience of unexpected joy, respectively.

From a spiritual standpoint, however, secrets are points of disconnection from both each other and the divine. To understand this, one needs only to consider the reason behind any secret imaginable. At the root of every secret is the basest part of human nature — fear.

“She can’t find this out!”

Underlying motivation: I fear it will hurt her, or it will hurt me, or it will hurt us both and maybe others as well.

“Don’t tell him–it’s a surprise party!” Underlying motivation: I fear it won’t be as meaningful or exciting for him if the surprise is spoiled.

What is at the root of fear? The uncertainty of survival.

By choosing not to share a thought or experience with another, we cause two direct results:

1. We forge intellectual superiority
2. We forge an alliance with ourselves, another, or a group

Humanity differs from the animal kingdom in one fundamental way — awareness. Awareness of ourselves within the greater context of society, and awareness of our place within the greater context of the world. And, for those willing to seek enlightenment, humans can strive for an awareness of our meaning within the greater context of the universe. When it comes to survival, human beings have the ability to rise above instinct alone and use our awareness to ensure our safety. Our intellects have ensured our survival, and so we continue to use this evolutionary benefit out of habit, even when unnecessary. A secret is a capsule of knowledge we do not share, and for humans, knowledge has a direct to link to our survival.

When we keep a secret from another, we can tell ourselves we outrank them in the chain of knowledge. We can also keep certain secrets from everyone, forging an alliance with ourselves. This relates to result #1 (above) and feeds what is called the “Hero Complex,” a natural human desire to believe we are somehow more important or necessary in the universe than another being. We do this naturally, instinctively, whether or not we are conscious of it. We become a lawyer, a doctor, a scientist, a professional, and we feel our contribution outweighs that of a housekeeper, a homemaker, an obscure spiritual healer.

A million years ago, a man could gather food and hide it from another to ensure his own survival at the expense of his friend or partner’s life. Survival was key, and our ability to plan would be our strongest asset.

Homo sapiens

Today, a woman may win $50,000 in the lottery and keep it a secret from her spouse because she decides it is practical to save it for the future, while her spouse may want to use it for a frivolous car or expensive vacationing. In this way, she sees this decision to keep her winnings a secret as beneficial to her survival.

Lottery Ticket

When we keep the secret of another, or well tell another a secret of our own, we enact a powerful social alliance again aimed at our survival instinct. If we can share information with another that is unknown to those outside our alliance, we gain an advantage over the competition. These days, secrets are less often about where food is hidden or where we can sleep protected from predators, and more often about social constructs such as behavior and value systems.

“I have to tell you something, Donna. Larry didn’t want me to say anything, but I just have to.

“What is it, Brenda?” Donna asks.

“He’s got cancer — he probably won’t make it more than a year.”

Here is an example of a complex secret among three friends, brimming over with implications.

Larry learned three months ago that he has a rare cancer which does not leave him with much time to live. After a few days of processing the situation, he called his close friend Brenda to let her know. He told Brenda not to tell Donna, their other close friend, because he knows that Donna’s mother died of cancer a few years ago and he doesn’t want her to suffer.

Larry has forged an alliance with Brenda that excludes Donna. Brenda now has to make a decision to keep Larry’s secret and maintain that alliance, or to tell Donna and risk the possibility of offending one or both of them. Donna may be offended that Larry did not tell her first. After all, she has dealt with this situation before with her mother. Or if Donna is not offended by Larry’s secret, Larry may be offended by Brenda’s decision to break her alliance with him and betray his confidence in their friendship by telling Donna.

The first question may be — if Larry knows he is dying, how is his keeping it a secret going to help him survive?

The answer is — it won’t. But because a human being’s concern with survival is intrinsic, Larry subconsciously believes that keeping his illness a secret from Donna will bolster HER survival by reducing her potential for stress in learning of it. Ultimately, he knows she will find out, but perhaps knowing later will reduce the level of stress his illness may have inflicted on her had she learned of it sooner. We believe shielding others from “negative” information will somehow promote their survival. However, secrets are never tools of positivity in the greater spiritual dimension of the universe.

Withholding information VS Keeping a Secret

When examining secrets from a spiritual vantage point, there is a distinct difference between withholding information and keeping a secret. The clincher, as we have seen in previous explorations on Paranormalyte, is INTENTION.

If secrets relate to fear, why then, as Queen Mother said, does the universe offer us secrets?

I do not believe it does, for reasons of semantics. The universe offers us information, and we can do with it whatever we like. The missing link in today’s society is EXPERIENCE. What turns information about a spiritual encounter into a secret most often? It is our inability to recreate the experience for the purpose of transmission. The universe allows us to experience uniquely, and then for fear of our own validity as experiencers we turn it into a “secret.”

A secret will have consequences if revealed, whereas information that is withheld remains neutral. The reason this line of thinking seems shaky is because there is a point at which information withheld can become a secret. The moment when your withheld information carries meaningful consequences for yourself or another, it becomes a secret.

Psychics work in precarious territory, for they are the only people whose work it is to tell secrets learned from the (as of yet) undetectable energy of the universe. What makes this information secret is not the information itself, but the mode of transmission. If a psychic could give a client an experience of how the energy has been received, this would offer a kind of validation never before attained in any mainstream context. Perhaps the emphasis of psychic experimentation needs to change to reflect concrete differences between psychic experiencers.

A murder is committed and the police arrive at the scene. Two or more psychics are then brought in, all told to focus on one of the “clair’s” at a time. Perhaps it is a team of volunteers, designated to be part of a long-standing experiment. On the TV show “Sensing Murder,” currently available on Netflix, psychics Pam Coronado and Laurie Campbell were brought into various murder investigations which were “unsolved” after many years of police scrutiny. Their visions were wonderfully accurate, but the long time passage since the crimes coupled with the limited resources allocated for their hire were noticeable barriers to the psychic work being utilized to its full potential. Imagine if there were as many trained, practicing psychics allowed at a new crime scene as there are police detectives and medical workers?

Crime Scene

This type of investigative practice needs to become standard if any advancement is to be made in restructuring society’s approach to psychic information. The real secret is — finding the people willing to take psychic information out of the realm of “secret” and into the realm of the practical.